Make time today to smile at even the smallest things.
Make time today to smile at even the smallest things.
I received the following via email this morning. Passing it along. If you would do the same, I know Dr. Gina Wong-Wylie would be deeply appreciative. Thank you!
SEEKING RESEARCH PARTICIPANTS
April, May, and June 2010
Qualitative Research Study:
“Young Moms Can Soar”
Close to half of women under the age of 19 years who become young mothers are estimated to develop Postpartum Depression (PPD). Researchers with the Centre for Disease Control have indeed confirmed that young mothers are at an elevated risk for developing PPD. Nevertheless, the experience of depression for young moms does not necessitate negative long-term consequence and lifelong disadvantage. In this study, the researcher explores experiences of young moms who moved through PPD to a place of empowerment.
Please Contact Researcher:
Dr. Gina Wong-Wylie, Registered Psychologist
Toll Free in Canada: 1-866-442-3089
stopped glaring at mothers who choose to breastfeed in public?
stopped glaring at mothers who choose to bottlefeed in public?
stopped judging mothers who had cesarean sections?
stopped judging mothers who gave birth vaginally?
stopped judging mothers who had VBACS?
stopped making mothers feel guilty for the choices we made in childbirth?
stopped making mothers feel guilty and ashamed for struggling with a Postpartum Mood Disorder?
stopped making mothers feel guilty for the choices we’re making in childcare?
began to offer support and compassion to mothers who
breastfeed in public?
bottlefeed in public?
gave birth via cesarean section?
gave birth vaginally?
gave birth via VBAC?
make childbirth choices out of love and respect for their family’s chosen lifestyle?
choose to seek help for our Postpartum Mood Disorder experiences in a way that also fits our lifestyle?
make childcare choices out of love and respect for their family’s chosen lifestyle?
What if, indeed?
Six years ago when I became a mom for the first time, my mind was certainly not thinking about a Postpartum Mood Disorder. And I was certainly not thinking about having to discuss it with my newborn daughter when her sister and brother were born. Yet there I was – staring down delivery for the third time and the very real possibility of relapsing- and I had these two darling little girls depending on me. Suddenly it wasn’t about me anymore. It was about them. About their security, their safety, their happiness, the very stability of their world depended on how my husband and I explained the possibility of mommy experiencing a Postpartum Mood Disorder.
We did not talk about it a lot when our second daughter was born. At least I don’t remember talking about it a lot. I may have mentioned something briefly but at that point, I hadn’t become an advocate or blogger. I had not educated myself as much as I had by the time my pregnancy with our son. I had not come to embrace the realization that Postpartum Mood Disorder affects the whole family. Once I embraced that fact, I realized there was no way I could avoid having a discussion with our daughters. I should also say that our oldest daughter really saw a lot of strife she shouldn’t have with that second episode of Postpartum. My husband and I would yell and scream at each other with her just in the other room. We were both frustrated, scared, and really not putting ourselves first at all. Postpartum will do that to you – completely consume you if you allow it to do so. Our communication had hopelessly broken down by the time our second daughter came home from the hospital.
Somewhere in the second trimester of my third pregnancy, my husband and I began to talk with our daughters about Postpartum Mood Disorders. We did not use big clinical words even though we don’t believe in baby talking the kids.
We told them that sometimes, after moms have babies, they get sad. And sometimes they get angry. But it’s not the mommy’s fault. Not the daddy’s fault, not the baby’s fault and not the big brother or big sister’s fault. That it just happens. And if it does happen, mom goes to a doctor to talk about what’s going on so she can get help and get better.
Then we brainstormed ways they could help mommy if she got angry or sad after she had baby.
My favorite response was from our oldest: “I could make you happy by tickling you so you’ll laugh.”
That’s my girl – curing Postpartum Mood Disorders one tickle at a time!
I’ve since talked with the girls about what I do and why I spend time on the computer and the phone. I remind them about how some mommies get angry or sad after having babies. And then I tell them that mommy makes herself available to these mommies so they don’t have to be sad or angry alone. I tell them that mommy helps these mommies find the help they need to get better so they can be happy with themselves and with their families. They both seem to understand very well what mommy does and appreciate it.
Making the decision to share my postpartum journey with my kids was not easy. But given my history and the high chance of relapse, we felt we had to share with them what may happen after their brother was born. One day I may share with them this website and let them read everything that happened. I’ll answer any questions they may have. It’s important to me they understand that there is no shame in any kind of mental illness. But until they are much older, I don’t feel they need to know very much. I certainly don’t regret having shared with them what I have thus far. For me, sharing with my kids will be showing them that it is possible to get through the toughest parts of life. I sincerely hope the phrase “I give up” is never in their vocabulary.
So let’s get to just talking. Will you ever share your Postpartum Story with your child? Have you already shared with your son or daughter? What did you tell them? Will you tell them the whole story or just bits and pieces? Why would you tell them your story? Why would you choose not to tell them if that’s your decision?
Let’s get to just talking!
This Friday and Saturday there is a free two day conference in Flagstaff, AZ at Flagstaff Medical Center. The topic is Perinatal Mood Disorders: Assessment and Treatment.
CEU’s and AMA PRA Category 1 credits are available.
You can read more about this conference here, as well as access contact information for registration.
Thanks to Sera @ Laughing through the Chaos for leaving this tip in the comments:
Just an FYI in case anyone plans on coming up for it who isn’t already registered. I would definitely, definitely call before you travel there. I’ll be there and they were overwhelmed with the response. There’s a large waiting list right now, so they’re asking that if current attendees can’t make it, that they let the organizers know so they can start letting the wait listers in.
Thanks for spreading the word! It’s going to be an amazing conference, and we’re hopeful that it’s going to mean big things for awareness, education, screening and treatment of PMD in Arizona.