I have the wisdom of being 17 years out and being able to look back and “know” what might have helped me, a bit, possibly:

1. Please mama, say yes to help, any and all help – so hard, because we are usually the helpers to everyone, trust me, say yes I need help.

2. Honor your sleep, my friend, you are so tired, you cannot keep going, please lay your head down and get 5 hours of connected sleep (that means in a row, at night) so your body and mind can rest, see #1 for help.

3. YOU are the right mom, YOU are the best mom for this baby. YOU were meant to be together, if it means you need some help – therapy, medication, support groups – do wonders, go get help. www.postpartumprogress.org lists all the resources, just reach out, or see #1 and ask someone to do it. YOU can do this. I see mamas do it everyday. You can do this.

(Lisa Tremayne)

Just breathe! This DOES get better.

No matter what you think, YOU ARE ENOUGH!

And also…it’s OK if you don’t have all those gushy mushy lovey feelings coming out of every pore on your body for your child.

It’s not a prerequisite. You’ve just met!

(Jessica LaBonte)