Category Archives: #PPDChat

Healing through sharing

Notable tweets from the 09.05.11 #PPDChat.

Writing your story allows you to reflect on your experience and bring your story into physical existence. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
When you do decide to share, be authentic. Be real. Be unapologetically you. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
Deciding when and how to share is up to you. Don’t let anyone force you into sharing YOUR story. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
Speaking in front of 200+ strangers 3 years after suffering from postpartum psychosis was the most cathartic thing I’ve ever done. #PPDchat
heathercoleman
September 6, 2011
@isalwayssick I find that each time I tell the story, it gets easier. It doesn’t own me, I own it. #PPDchat
heathercoleman
September 6, 2011
@unxpctdblessing – That temptation to toss an infant through a window is more common than many mothers realize… #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
@unxpctdblessing – When I told a friend that I was tempted to throw the baby through a window for a moment too, she cried. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
@unxpctdblessing – and I told her "You’re not alone. A lot of moms feel that way, but you didn’t act on it. THAT’S what matters!" #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
Thoughts and actions are NOT the same. Thoughts are simply thoughts, and nothing more. Thoughts do not make you a bad person. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
I’ve seen mothers burst into tears when they hear they aren’t evil, horrible mothers b/c of how they were feeling. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
That realization comes from hearing someone else say "I felt that way too" #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
@isalwayssick So important for moms to know they are NOT evil for feeling depressed/anxious/etc #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
There’s a level of societal and personal expectation we place on ourselves. When we fail to live up to it, I think #PPD hits hard. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
…knowing that those expectations are pure crap & that other moms struggle too helps so much. Share your story when you can. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
My OCD was very hard to control pp. I am supermom! Did someone forget to tell me she doesn’t really exist. I can’t do it all! #ppdchat
zumbafitmom
September 6, 2011
@DrBeckerSchutte my dh found it reassuring to talk to ppl IRL and find out how prevalent it was #ppdchat
signingcharity
September 6, 2011
@signingcharity Oh, being a partner to someone with depression, especially PPD, is no cakewalk. They need support too! #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
#PPD can happen to anyone! It’s just important to get help and talk it out with someone you can trust. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
@unxpctdblessing @xtina_morrison Agree. Getting help is not an admission that you can’t cope – it’s you being realistic w ur situ #ppdchat
notjustaboutwee
September 6, 2011
@unxpctdblessing Yup. No one really wants to hear the bad, they just want to be polite I wrote a post on my ability to say I’m fine #PPDchat
ToBreatheAgain
September 6, 2011
Because other moms who have been through it can help you fight the shame and self-loathing that wells up. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
The hardest conversation is the one in which we admit we’re not okay to loved ones and friends. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
@unxpctdblessing I think the hardest convo is with yourself. Admitting you’re struggling & in pain & being honest w yourself. #ppdchat
notjustaboutwee
September 6, 2011
Just talking to other mothers has helped #ppdchat
kate_leigh_
September 6, 2011
I kept trying to deny it, after talking with other mothers I knew it was time to pay attention to what was going on #ppdchat
kate_leigh_
September 6, 2011
@isalwayssick "I’m fine" and "I’m okay" are two red-flag codes for me. They’re what we say when we don’t feel safe. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
I share my story at every childbirth class I teach. I want women to know it’s real & it’s okay to ask & get help. #ppdchat
zumbafitmom
September 6, 2011
It’s important to surround yourself with people who care about you and will support you as you heal. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
Sharing our scary stories with others creates community while connecting all of us on the deepest level. #ppdchat
yaelsaar
September 5, 2011
I think so often that oh how I wish I had Twitter when I was #ttc & when I had #ppd! I felt so alone, especially with the latter. #ppdchat
beantownkate
September 5, 2011
I remember how scared I was the first time I talked about my anger in a group. And how much lighter I felt afterwards. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
Naming the fear is a start, but it takes concrete support (therapist, pastor, family, friends) to step in & create healing. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
I’m still guarded about what I say even anonymously. But this time around I think I’ve been more open overall. #PPDchat
mammacockatoo
September 6, 2011
@g8trgirl828 Ill be honest. Im not sure I can "go there" to write worst w/o being in therapy AND having real life support system. #ppdchat
callamery
September 5, 2011
I think that sharing is a huge piece of healing-a support group was what pulled me through the darkest time. #PPDChat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 5, 2011
Esp. since another round of friends seems to be having babies & I want them to know they don’t have to hide if something is "off" #PPDchat
mammacockatoo
September 6, 2011
I guess 1 fear is always not knowing who to trust with our sharing. If we don’t trust ourselves, how do we know who else to trust? #PPDchat
mammacockatoo
September 6, 2011
They’re not quite the same, the different kinds of screaming. One traps us in guilt, one gets us toward free. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
my motto is it’s better to look good then feel good but the lie is wearing me out I fear being exposed #ppdchat
xtina_morrison
September 6, 2011
When I was in the dark, I had to find people who were safe to tell that I was in the dark, then I could begin to look for light. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
When I was lost in the darkness, all I wanted was to talk to another mom. To know i was going to be okay and wasn’t abnormal. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
I drove to a friend’s house when she admitted having #PPD. I shared my story w/ her, & she said it made a huge difference. #PPDChat
isalwayssick
September 6, 2011
nobody has a clue what I’m feeling because I’m lying Smiles on the outside Screaming inside #ppdchat
xtina_morrison
September 6, 2011
@xtina_morrison I know sometimes you have to put on a good face. But think how much it helps you when other moms don’t pretend. #ppdchat
story3girl
September 6, 2011
@xtina_morrison I think we’re all afraid of being exposed. There are so many expectations on us, from inside & outside. #ppdchat
DrBeckerSchutte
September 6, 2011
@xtina_morrison It’s hard to admit we’re not okay. But an absolute necessity toward healing. #ppdchat
unxpctdblessing
September 6, 2011
I know that when things got bad, I found some PPD moms’ blogs, and they really saved me. Which is why I want to write now. #ppdchat
story3girl
September 6, 2011

A few tips for emergency preparedness for Mental Health

With Hurricane Irene bearing down on the East Coast of the United States, it’s important to also remember to prepare for your mental health if disaster were to strike. Much of the Eastern Seaboard will be closing down as the storm continues along it’s current path.

While making your preparations don’t forget to include your mental health issues.

  • Check your prescriptions. Make sure they’re filled or you have at least a two week supply left. See if you can get your pharmacy to refill early for you if you’re close to low. Or call your doctor’s office and see if you can get samples to get you through.
  • If you have to take your meds with food, make sure you have non-perishable similar food available to you. MAOI’s, remember, require a specific diet. Watch what you have available to you in case of power outage and be sure it won’t interact with your medicine.
  • Write down and keep with all your important paper work the name of your prescribing physician and/or therapist. Check with both offices to see what the availability will be during the storm. Write this down along with their contact information. Also be sure to write down any emergency contact information for the office as well.

Disasters of any kind can be triggering. In addition to gathering necessary survival supplies, plan for some non-tech self-care as well. You’ll need to make sure that in the midst of the stress of the situation you have a space in which you can breathe and feel safe. Self-care is at the center of survival.

Need to know how to prepare for a hurricane? Click here for a great guide.

Stay safe out there and don’t forget to plan ahead for your mental health and well-being as well.

Only human

Dear lovely readers and #PPDChat members:

 

It’s been a heck of a week. I’m tired. Drained. Worn the heck out.

I’m always preaching to you about self-care. About filling your own tanks and making sure you put yourself first.

This week, I sucked at that a little.

So I’m taking the weekend off.

I’m uninstalling Twitter from my phone.

I’m turning off my email alerts except for a super secret email address only released to a few chosen people.

I won’t be on Facebook either.

I need to just be.

To soak in the jacuzzi.

Watch the clouds.

Swing on a playground.

Watch the Blue Heron hunt for fish in the lake behind the house.

Sink into a hot bubble bath.

Also? Chocolate. Maybe.

Know that I’m okay. That I’m taking care of me which is precisely what I want each and every one of you to do this weekend.

Take care of you.

I’ll see y’all on Monday at chat.

We’ll be talking about Triggers and how to cope.

What better way to get ready than to practice all weekend?

Love all of you so much.

All my heart,

lauren