Category Archives: #PPDChat

#PPDChat 05-18-15: Quotes to Live By

ppdchat-05-18-15We all have them – little quotes or sayings we keep near to our hearts. Words we use to lift us in the darkest hours.

Tonight, let’s share them with each other.

What quotes did you find most helpful as you worked through your Perinatal Mood & Anxiety Disorder? How did you discover it?

See you on Twitter at 9pm to talk all about the quotes!

#PPDChat 04.27.15: PPD & Friends

 

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Tonight’s #PPDChat will be hosted by the fantastic @DonutsMama.

She’ll be addressing the topic of PPD & Friends. It’s an important one as PPD not only changes us, but it also changes friendships – for a variety of reasons.

Friends may not understand what we are going through and not know how to appropriately reach out. Or they may be nervous about now being friends with someone battling a mental health issue. Or, in a worst case scenario, they may no longer want to be friends with someone who has a mental health issue.

There is also the other side – that of ourselves. We become enclosed in a bubble as we battle for our sanity and are not capable of reaching out appropriately ourselves. Then, as we begin to heal, we find the rubble which exists beyond our borders and are overwhelmed with how to proceed. Particularly for those who battle against anxiety, the prospect of making new friends or setting out to be in public is absolutely overwhelming.

Join @DonutsMama as she discusses the very important topic of PPD & Friends tonight at 9pm ET on Twitter. You don’t want to miss it!

#PPDChat 04.13.15: Finding Rays of Sun

Finding Rays of Sunshine: Thinking Positively in the DarkIt’s tough to be positive when surrounded by dark, wrapped in fog. It’s tough to see the sun and embrace the warmth it offers when you all want to do is cover your head with a blanket and pretend the rest of the world doesn’t exist.

It is perfectly okay to wrap yourself up in that blanket and stay in a cocoon for awhile. But eventually, just like the caterpillar that transforms into a beautiful butterfly, you will have to emerge into life.

Baby steps.

Join me tonight at #PPDChat on Twitter as we navigate how to step out of the dark and foggy night into the sunshine. I’ll be talking about a few methods I have used for myself, all of which incorporate together nicely:

List of three: listing three things for which you are grateful in the morning before your feet hit the floor, and then listing three things which made you laugh/smile in the evening before bed.

Five Senses Self-Care: listing all five senses, then five of your favourite things for each sense and incorporating at least one thing from each sense into every day living. Also involves posting this list in a main area where members of your family are able to see this so they know what you need.

Daily Self-Care Time Out: Dedicate at least 10 minutes a day to YOU. Self-care does not need to be tedious or long. It can be as little as the routine of preparing a favourite tea, sitting in the sun, taking a hot shower – whatever soothes YOU.

I’ll see you tonight on Twitter at 9:00pm ET to discuss all of this and more. Oh, and you can follow along right here as well! I’ll be posting the live Twubs feed right before chat starts!

Meanwhile – get a jump start on the self-care today! What WILL you do for YOU today? Let us know tonight at chat.

Me? I’ve got some awesome chocolate in the pantry that needs devouring.

#PPDChat 04.06.15: Done

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Done.

As mothers, it’s not a word we utter a lot. Nothing ever seems to be “done” completely, does it?

There’s always dishes to be “done”, laundry to be “done”, baths to be “done”, and the list goes on and on. We are never DONE.

And yet, we should be done with small tasks throughout the day. Why?

Because, according to a fascinating article at Fast Company this morning, saying the word “Done” after completing even small tasks, allows us to feel a sense of accomplishment.

Seriously. They even cite science, y’all. What does it do? It shifts our brain in a neurochemical fashion, creating more serotonin. And we could ALL use a bit more natural serotonin, yes?

Join me tonight and let’s talk about everything you got “done” today. I’m willing to bet it is far more than you think.

See you at 9pm ET on Twitter. Be sure to check back here to follow the live feed if you’d rather not hop on Twitter itself. Thank you, Twubs, for existing.

With that, I’m DONE.

Next?

#PPDChat 03.23.14: Healing Timelines

ppdchat-03-23-15“I should be better by now, right?”

“When do the thoughts go away?”

“When does the rage stop?”

“I started meds a few months ago. Why don’t I feel better yet?”

Many of us have heard these phrases echoed by women who reach out to us. They’re frustrated because they are still hurting and fighting. For many of these women, a Perinatal Mood & Anxiety Disorders is their first brush with mental health disorder. And like so many, they assume there is a timeline the disorder will follow. Thing is, even with medication and therapy, we all follow our own timelines.

When we get sick, we go to the doctor, get medicine, and are told when we can expect to feel better. With a mental health disorder, we are given medicine, told when we can expect it to kick in, advised of side effects, and possibly referred for therapy. That’s if we’re lucky. Then we are left to our own devices.

We find people like us. We do the most human thing possible – we compare our healing timeline to theirs. “She’s on the same med as me so I should get better as quickly as she did, right?”

Not necessarily.

Last week, we discussed knowing your symptoms. This week? We’re going to discuss knowing your healing timeline, how to keep from comparing yourself to those around you, and find solace in the small steps forward you’re making instead of seeking for giant leaps in healing.

Join us tonight at 9:00pm ET on Twitter. Don’t forget – you can come back here at 9:00pm to follow us, live.

See y’all then!

#PPDChat 03-16-15: Know Thy Signs

ppdchat 03-16-15Any navigator will tell you to know your landmarks when traveling. Know thy signs.

It’s the same with mental health. Know thy signs.

What happens when you start to spiral down? Do you have certain habits you repeat? These are your signs, your tips that something is going wrong.

Tonight’s chat isn’t just for those of us who face a Perinatal Mood & Anxiety Disorder – it’s also for those of us who fight the good fight against mental illness on a daily basis. We have to read our minds and know our signs. It’s exhausting, but necessary in order for us to make the best of the day which lies ahead of us. Sometimes, that day may require rest or sometimes we may have a really awesome day followed by sheer exhaustion because of everything we took in. It’s the ebb and flow of the war we wage as we live our lives.

I sincerely hope you will join us as we explore and chat about our own warning signs, what they mean, and how to learn to recognize your own.

See you tonight at 9:00pm ET!

PS. If you can’t get to Twitter, you’ll be able to follow the chat from here. Check back at 9pm ET, when a live chat feed will be embedded into this post!

We’ll be LIVE in 5 minutes. Follow along  here:

#PPDChat 03.09.15: #MakeItHappen

ppdchat-03-09-15In recognition of yesterday as International Women’s Day, tonight’s #PPDChat will pick up and carry the theme of #makeithappen.

Even in the past eight years, advocacy, support, and care have come a long way. But there is still plenty to be done. Tonight, we will be recognizing the strides and breakthroughs but also discussing what lies ahead of us to better improve care and support for women and families still struggling. Join us as we discuss hurdles we’ve jumped and the hurdles we still have to leap over.

See you tonight at 9pm ET!

Warmest,

Lauren

Follow along with tonight’s chat right here:

#PPDChat 03.02.15: Space to Heal

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The Fourth Trimester. It has potential to be rocky for many. All those adjustments. And the potential of the complication of a mood disorder? HELLO.

For those of us who fight a mood disorder post-birth, or the further complication of a life long mental health battle post-birth/parenting, adjusting can be hard. Add in the well-meaning folks who have ALL THE ADVICE and ALL THE ANSWERS and ALL THE QUESTIONS (when will you have another one? Are you done with babies?) and well, yeah. The space to heal becomes an item on the highest shelf at the store that you just cannot reach but desperately need to take home with you.

So how do you create that space to heal? Do you wait for it to appear? Do you force it to appear? Do you say a few words and will it into existence?

Baby steps.

The space to heal begins with the first step – admitting you need it. Then the second (and possibly difficult) step of getting those around you on board. You know how we nest in the later stages of pregnancy? That’s what you need to do – but for yourself.

Join us tonight as we talk about creating the space you need to heal after the birth of a baby and the onset of a perinatal mood & anxiety disorder. Deciding how to move forward is a personal decision and not one anyone else can make for you. Walk with us as we help empower you to make that nest of healing space.

See you on Twitter at our NEW time – 9pm ET!

#PPDChat 02.09.15: Sharing PPD With Family

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Family is supposed to have your back, right? That’s what society says, anyway. But each family is different and every person holds “support” in their own box. They think they are helping but they are instead tearing you down with suggestions meant to heal you.

How do you decide when to share your diagnosis? What about when a beloved family member shames you for fighting this battle?  How large do you make the circle of people who are able to know?

Please join me tonight at #PPDChat to discuss this very issue. It’s one that is extremely important. See you on Twitter at 8:30pm ET!

#PPDChat 02.02.15: #DayofLight Chat

ppdchat-02-02-15This status update came into my feed yesterday evening via my good friend Addye. I’m thankful she shared it because it is certainly something I want to support.

The status read (emphases mine):

“Hey All! This Wednesday, February 4th is the 2nd annual ‪#‎DayOfLight‬. This is the day when I’m asking everyone to share their stories of depression on social media. So often folks suffer alone, believing that no one else understands what they’re going through.

Depression is real. It’s not something that can be wished away, and it’s not something to be ashamed about. Share your story on your blog, on your Facebook status, in a tweet, or on Instagram. Pick up the phone and check on a friend. Send an email, a text message or a DM to let someone know that you are there for them.

If you, or someone you know, has been affected by depression, please change your profile picture to black and white on that day to show solidarity to those who are going through it.”

Brandi, the founder of this movement, will be stopping by during #PPDChat this evening to talk with us a bit more about the history of the movement and how folks can participate and spread the word.

I hope you’ll join us and raise your voice with your story. We, none of us, are alone.